Tho the whole content is in the context of relationships but it speaks more than just relationships alone.
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In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of
what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in
your relationship. There is always another person (man or women)
that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is
lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20%
looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current
relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that
good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get
something better with the other 20% that you WANT. But as reality
has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the
20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that
you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
"Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her
Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's
also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my
spouse is not"
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be
more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer.
Have greater sex appeal.. And you will find a woman or man who will
need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse
ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only
have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a
husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is
melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry
laugh no matter what she says: "I broke my arm yesterday,
Hahahaha . . .."
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling
of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young
sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black
blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your
husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet
an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents
all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you
have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and
joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the
other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers..
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you
already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.. I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks
through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's
missing? "They have got more leg room! Oh my , their food is served
in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've
got personal videos!"
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your
life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do
you know that there are many first class passengers who are
miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private
Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are,
you are first class!
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We need to make do with what we have, seriously. So, stop complaining and grumbling when you're actually the more fortunate one ! (Fighting against the devil in me
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